Well, it’s about to controversial up in here. One might even say dramatic.
Full disclosure, I’m totally intrigued about this concept of a sister wife. Before I get my first piece of hate email, let me explain. My interest was peaked after I first saw TLC’s show Sister Wives and fell in love with their family. I’ve also read a popular novel about a woman escaping a very unhealthy polygamist situation, and I recognize that there are tons of negative accounts of polygamist situations, but watching a reality show about a man with multiple wives has been really eye-opening for me. Granted, I don’t have any interest in the concept of polygamy and I have a hard time wrapping my head around a man marrying more than one woman but as long as everyone is of age and consenting, who am I to judge? Nothing is ALL bad and I can see the benefits in their lifestyle.
Speaking of judging, I am SO over everyone hating on celebrity and reality relationships. Am I the only person who doesn’t immediately strike a negative and aghast face when someone mentions the name Kardashian? SO WHAT, she’s crazy and had the world’s shortest marriage and named her baby North and makes money because she has a nice ass, but none of those things make me loathe her. SO WHAT, Anna Nicole Smith was a gold-digger, Tiger Woods is a womanizer, Rhianna went back to Chris Brown, and Prince William refuses to wear a wedding ring!! The Duggars won’t stop having children! O.M.G! What has the world come to?!?
Seriously though, how is becoming all hateful going to teach that person a lesson? You don’t know them and frankly, I don’t want someone judging my life that intensely so I try not to do the same.
Polygamists are faith-based and simply have different religious beliefs than I do. Bottom line. In regards to the argument that all Kody Brown (of TLC’s Sister Wives) wants is to do is have sex with multiple women is a load of crap. Have you seen the show?!?! Plus, what is this, 1945? Couples are equal partners and many times it’s the woman that is the head of household. Why would anyone want more than one woman in charge of their home? You could promise my husband all the sex in the world but he would still go running for the hills if you told him he had to live with another person like me telling him what to do, cutting into his free time, talking non-stop, getting emotional around the same time each month, and generally crying for no reason.
I digress, but my point is that a sister wife sounds like a blessing in disguise. Women raising their children together, supporting each other through personal and professional crisis’, lifting each other up in times of joy, and spending birthdays and holidays together doesn’t sound too bad. All their children grow up being loved by many parents/care-givers. Their family experiences are broader and their range of love is expanded. Their tolerance of sharing and learning to communicate must grow with each additional sibling.
Lucky for me I already have someone in my life who can fill my sister wife void. It just so happens she is already my sister and she’s somebody’s wife so I think she’ll do.
The Sister and I may have fought through most of our youth but these days we’re closer than ever and after getting married three months apart (craziness), we’re almost ready to start the next chapter of our lives. Growing our families!
She can even do my signature Stephanie selfie pose! Which is key for raising children with good self-esteem.
The Scottish and I plan to move to Minnesota to raise a family in a suburb of the Twin Cities, (where my parents, my sister and her husband, and my brother all currently reside), and one of the main reasons is so they can grow up near their cousins. I have tons of great memories of visiting my cousins growing up, and that is priceless to me. Unfortunately, we still had to travel hours by car to be near our extended family. I’m hoping that The Sister’s kids and my kid’s will grow up as cousins and close friends. I look forward to shared holidays, birthday parties, sleepovers at Grandma and Grandpa’s house, and having a place to drop them off when The Scottish and I need a date night.
I know our situation is nothing like a real sister wife but I think there’s something to be said about raising your children in a community of loving family members. I know some people don’t have the same relationship with their family as I do or perhaps they do best living abroad or on their own away from their siblings and parents, but this is what I’m excited about. I love being a wife, a sister, and a daughter, and I can’t wait to be a mom.
To my female readers, consider the women in your life, do you have someone who could be your sister wife? Go tell them now, or on second thought, perhaps keep that nugget to yourself… and just tell me in the comments. 🙂