It’s time for a Married Life Check-in!  The first of many I imagine.  So exciting!  Note my excited face in the picture below of our “first look.”  It’s pretty intense.

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I love a good check-in post, I like hearing progress updates, and I’m one of those freaks people who enjoys assessing themselves and wondering what areas I can work on to become a better person.   I find reflecting on different aspects of my life very comforting and I find sharing that with others can be very therapeutic.  (I’m weird, I know.)

So often, we only see what people want to display on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or whatever but we don’t really know what’s going on with them. Which is fine, people shouldn’t have to share every tidbit of their lives on the internet, but the problems arise when we start comparing ourselves to everyone else’s trophy display case instead of to their dirty, cramped closet.  We’re humans, we compare by nature, and we can’t help it!  But it’s good to remember the most perfect lives are probably not that perfect.  And even if they are, they are perfect for someone else.  Every person and every relationship is unique and our lives cannot be measured by someone else’s accomplishments.

Personally I like hearing positive sentiments on social media, but I fall into the comparison trap more often than I’d like to admit.  So I’m going to try a little experiment, I’m going to give you two potential Facebook status updates.  The first, a more positive and fluffy version of how I might share my anniversary with the world, and the second, a more truthful and lengthy synopsis, with just a little bit of fluff because I am a huge romantic after all!  🙂

Status One:

Happy six month anniversary to @The Scottish!  It’s been quite a ride these past few months with an epic wedding, a Jamaican honeymoon, a big move from Chicago to Kansas, applying for a green card, and adding a furbaby to our lives, but there’s no one else I’d want by my side except you!  Thanks for always making me laugh and loving me unconditionally.  I’m so blessed to be your wife and look forward to a future filled with many more wonderful anniversaries!  #marriedbliss

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Status Two:

Holy cow, it’s been over six months since we said “I Do” in front of our favorite people, time flies when you’re super busy, huh?  I know there were moments along the way when we didn’t understand each other, and moments where we yelled really loud and got really angry, but after the dust settled and the mood mellowed, we always came out stronger.  I wasn’t sure what to expect of these first few months because I’d heard it could be the worst year of marriage or the best year of marriage, but I don’t think I could sum it up in either extreme.  Marriage is constantly changing and that’s OK.  As stupid as it sounds, I do love you more and more each day and I am so incredibly proud to be your wife.  When I think about our future I feel so many emotions but the number one feeling is joy.  Thank you @The Scottish for an amazing start.  #marriedlife  #reallife

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all images by Crystal Liepa Photography

Which status do you prefer?  Be honest!  🙂  What type of status’ do you normally share?

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10 Responses to “#marriedlife”

  1. Kelly

    I like them both for different reasons. I don’t have as much of an issue posting positive fluffy stuff when celebrating a milestone like this. True, life isn’t always perfect, but anniversaries and birthdays are moments to focus on the good. With that said, I think your second status is wonderful. While you acknowledge that things aren’t always puppies and rainbows, there is still a celebration. As for myself, I think I post a bit of both, but I would say my statuses are more of a positive or funny vibe. Mostly because I don’t think social media is a place to divulge my most personal struggles. Those are things I share with good friends and family. I’m also not the kind of person that uses social media to document every moment of my life, so I only share moments I think other people would enjoy reading about…and usually those are more upbeat things.

    And by the way, you were a gorgeous bride!

    • Stephanie

      Aww thank you! Yes, fluff for positive milestones just makes the most sense. It’s good to keep some parts of your life private though, especially as a blogger. And I *try* to be funny or witty in lot of my status updates because in my opinion social media is more fun when it’s entertaining rather than serious.

  2. Danielle

    I like the second one better, but they are both good. I love reading fluff on status updates and sure I probably compare myself when I shouldn’t. But I hate when people post their drama on social media. That is what kills me.

    Congrats on 6 months. I have been following you since your weddingwire days.

    • Stephanie

      Thank you for the comment! I too hate when people share their drama in awkward ways on social media… Thanks for the continued following, I really appreciate it!

  3. Erin

    I like the second one, personally, but that’s also because I know someone on social media that always posts status updates like #1 and I also know things aren’t always unicorns and rainbows for them so it irks me a little bit. Plus, I am just not an ooey gooey on a social media platform.

  4. Kristie

    I’m in total agreement with Erin.

    I really enjoyed reading such a real and honest post!

    P.s. I think this is my first comment here. I followed you on Weddingbee 🙂


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