One of the best decisions I made before having my son was to join a new mama class. I joined for selfish reasons mostly, I wanted to have a set place to go when I left the house, I wanted to know there was a teacher I could ask questions of, and I wanted to meet some new mama friends. I was successful in all three areas and I got even more out of it than I could have imagined.
Taking care of myself is just as important as taking care of The Wee One and I knew this class would be a safe place for me to grow as a parent. A sleep-deprived, food-deprived, depressed, scared, or unsure mother is not going to be a very good one. Meeting up with these girls and their sweet babies once a week has been so nourishing to my soul.
Of course I also wanted The Wee One to make friends but when you’re only five weeks old you tend to sleep through class and not notice anyone or anything around you.
Our teacher was fantastic and a very impressive listener. Our weekly classes covered a different topic once a week and were filled with great conversation, lots of questions, some answers, laughter, and quite a bit of tears (both from mamas and babies). I do love a good cry! Listening to each other’s stories reminded us all that everyone has some sort of struggle when they first become a mother. Whether it’s about feeding, sleep, or fussiness, or about fears, pain, or intense feelings, it’s ALLLL normal. And it’s all OK.
Our “homework” was to meet up once a week outside of class and we’re still doing it now that our session has ended!
Our group of 8 included 7 boys and one girl, what are the odds of that?
Look, The Wee One is trying to hold hands already!?!
I’d liken the quick bond of first time mothers to my experience as an actor working on a show. You’re all thrust together in this crazy process called rehearsal, all with the similar goal of making a great production, complete with similar struggles and similar schedules. It’s the same thing with new mamas, we’re all just trying to raise the best kid we can while overcoming the same newborn hurdles. I feel like these girls know so much about me because
I talk constantly no topic is off limit and everyone’s feelings are valid.
The reason I joined was because of another new mother’s recommendation while I was still pregnant. She said the best thing she did was join a new mama class! Now, I’m paying it forward. Consequently, The Sister doesn’t really have a choice in the matter, I’m pretty much forcing her to join a new mama class. 🙂 Sure, she’ll have me to answer questions (and give her unsolicited, obnoxious sisterly advice based on a measly six months of experience), but it’s so beneficial to be surrounded by other moms who are going through the exact same phases, growth spurts, and regressions that you are at that moment.
So yea, make those freezer meals ahead of time. Definitely read those sleep books in preparation, and yes, ask friends and family for help. But if you can, join a class. It’s the best thing I did for myself and my son.
Did you start early with Mommy and Me classes? How cute is a circle of babies??